Oana Serbana

Hi, I'm Oana!

Relationship Architect in devotion to Love and Authenticity, passionate about guiding people to embrace their true self and to master the art of being in meaningful connections.

I believe...

. . . everything is sacred. Our joy and sorrow, our primal dark parts and our light, the body and the soul, everything belongs to the same one Life.

We are immersed in Love.

The only problem is that we've learned to cover our Essence so that we can cope with all kind of situations which made us feel unsafe or caused pain. This affects the way we communicate and interact with eachother.

I believe spirituality should be something applicable in our daily life, something practical not just an idea.

In my view it's part of our journey to learn how to be in sustainable, heart-connected relationships.

I also believe Life is about living it, savoring all its beauty.

The many aspects of the same soul...

In the same way a diamond has many facets, our personalities also are made of different parts, some in harmony, some even opposing eachother. This concept is beautifully explained by IFS(Internal Family Systems) as the idea " that instead of being only one person, we all hold multiple people within us—a core Self and multiple co-existing internal parts that relate to each other in the same ways that members of a family might relate to one another. "
We're made of lights and shadows and harmony comes from embracing them all.

Below I'd like to introduce you to a few aspects of mine.

The Engineer

Until my mid-thirties I was a Mechanical Engineer. This directed my mindset towards no-nonsense approaches with clear and practical outcomes.

These days I am still working in a high-tech environment, but as a Scrum Master and Team Coach who really like to design and facilitate all kind of workshops about boundaries, communication and team dynamics.

I like to geek out about stuff and to know why certain things work the way they do.

I'm fascinated by the meeting point between Quantum Physics and the unseen, which has quite some impact on the way I perceive Life.

The Artist

I feel I HAVE to paint. It's more than a hobby, it's somehow part of my purpose in Life. I am a self-thought artist and I tried all kinds of mediums, from oils & acrylics to wood working. A while ago I discovered watercolors and I fell in love. They are wild, they flow, they are not meant to be tamed. When the brush touches the paper, I have to surrender, else it doesen't work. And that's what I like the most about watercolors. And maybe that's why I avoided them for years and years, until I started to long for a more surrendered way of living.

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The Warrior

In high-school and college I practiced for a bit martial arts (Shitō-ryū and Aikido ). After a while I also discovered Qigong.

I liked to learn about surviving in the wild, how to make a fire and to find my way into the woods with very little available. I found Bear Gryll's movies very inspiring.

I so much enjoy the warrior spirit which comes trough a conscious heart and I think Love sometimes has to be fierce, sword-sharp and not only soft and gentle, so that it can stand up and protect what matters.

I looove the energy of Fire expressed as Sacred Rage, burning down what doesen't serve anymore!

The Priestess

Since I was a child I liked to meditate and I was drawn to anything esoteric and unusual. I was reading all I could find about Taoism, Witchcraft and Magic, Zen Buddhism, alternative therapies, psychology, personal development etc. I used to be obsessed with becoming enlightened.

In my thirties I stared to walk the tantric path. What does that even mean I sometimes wonder, as I think it's just part of our nature to be grounded in our bodies, to access both our inner masculine and feminine and to let Pleasure take us places.

My heart feels nourished by rituals, by the beauty of slowing down and by the magic synchronicities which happens everywhere when I just go with the Flow.

And by feeling other hearts.

Stories from my journey trough Life...

I was born in a Romanian village, in the heart of the Carpathian mountains. I was surrounded by stunning nature and lots of domestic violence. I often witnessed highly conflictual situations, where arguments easily became physical fights.

I was a sensitive kid who didn't know how to deal with what was happening, so I found my refuge in meditation. I used to think my feelings away, which worked fine for many years, until it didn't and the shadows started to knock louder and louder on my heart's and body's doors.

In 2018 I moved to the Netherlands and since then I had to do quite some updates on my beliefs, like re-learning the meaning of conflicts and that they can actually be healthy and constructive, not only violent and unsafe.

I had several peaceful long-term relationships, with nice men who were loving and caring. We got along well and didn't argue much about who takes out the trash.

We were fine, but I was feeling lonely. We were emotionally disconnected, because we were avoiding to have tough conversations, to have conflicts, and in general neither of us knew how to share our pains with each other.

I was afraid to show when I was sad, jealous or angry as I used to judge these feelings as "bad feelings".

We were so careful not to hurt eachother that we slowly drifted apart.

After going trough a breakup when I was 35, I discovered the work of HeartiQ and everything changed. I became aware about how I was keeping my heart closed and what does it take to open it. I realized how important it is to have proper talks with the ones I care about. I discovered that in relationships being happy together has to be the consequence of being REAL .

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